A Multi-Layered Look at the Psychedelic Experience

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The psychedelic experience has been described as ineffable—it is beyond words. Psychedelics have long been thought of as substances that open the doors of perceptionThese days, the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) is researching the effectiveness of psychedelic interventions for treating a range of mental health challenges, including post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, and substance-use disorders. 

Classical psychedelics include Lysergic Acid Diethylamide (LSD); Psilocybin (Magic Mushrooms); and Dimethyltryptamine (DMT), which is found in Ayahuasca. Methylenedioxymethamphetamine (MDMA, Ecstasy) has a different chemical structure than the classical psychedelics and acts on different receptors in the brain. It can be thought of as an Empathogen or an Entactogen, which means that it enhances feelings of connectedness, empathy, and emotional openness, without the hallucinogenic effects commonly experienced with classical psychedelics. 

Every psychedelic experience is unique. The journey may include changes in perception, emotion, cognition, and sense of self. Perceptual effects include visual imagery, hallucinations, and color/sound/light intensity. Emotional effects include becoming more sensitive and experiencing emotions with more intensity. Cognitively, the experience itself is a trip—it takes the user into an altered state of consciousness that enables them to engage with their thought process on an entirely different dimension. 

These effects have an incredibly wide range, and the way in which they manifest depends on the dose, set, and setting. Set refers to a person’s mindset prior to the experience. The psychedelic experience will be shaped by whatever is going on in a person’s life, their reality. Setting refers to the environment in which the experience takes place, which includes the therapist/doctor/shaman who is present during the experience, as well as the general environment and ambiance.

In recent years, interest in the psychedelic experience has exploded. These substances are becoming destigmatized, and their use is commonly discussed, encouraged, and celebrated in the mainstream. However, despite the many positive and promising aspects of psychedelic use, it’s important to proceed with caution. Not everyone is a candidate for these experiences, based on factors that include biology, family history, and both physiological and mental health conditions. Therefore, a person’s consideration for whether or not to embark on a psychedelic experience should begin with a formal evaluation. Also, since set and setting are essential aspects of the psychedelic experience, anyone interested in pursuing psychedelics for therapeutic reasons should—after being evaluated and cleared—do so under the guidance of a knowledgeable, well-trained, and experienced facilitator. The fact that most psychedelics remain illegal in the U.S. is another important consideration for anyone interested in these substances to keep in mind.

Research on the effects and therapeutic benefits of psychedelics is ongoing, and the years to come will likely introduce more possibilities and notes of caution regarding psychedelics and their potential. At Evergreen Therapy, we are trained and experienced in providing a harm-reduction approach to psychedelic preparation and integration (learn more about that here). As professionals who are fascinated by the potential of these substances and committed to providing ethical and effective therapy, we balance our excitement about what psychedelics can offer with firm and mindful attention to the element of safety. 

What is LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy, And Why Does It Matter?

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LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy is a type of therapy designed to provide specific support to individuals who identify as LGBTQ+ so that they feel safe, understood, validated, and valued. Therapists who use this approach are specially trained to work with members of the LGBTGQIA+ community and recognize the unique experiences and challenges they face. To accurately be referred to as LGBTQIA+ affirmative, this type of therapy should provide a consistently safe and nonjudgmental space for clients to openly express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns.

Apart from being a space where LGBTQIA+ identified individuals can know they will be understood and treated well, the ultimate goal of affirmative therapy is to support clients in the process of leading authentic and fulfilling lives. To help clients get there, affirmative therapists might encourage an exploration of how sexual orientation and/or gender identity intersect with various areas of the client’s life, such as relationships, career, and family. Affirmative therapy can also be a space to address specific experiences such as the coming out process, the experience of childhood trauma, the effects of systemic marginalization and oppression, cutoff or estrangement from family members, unique relationship challenges, and more. This form of therapy has been shown to be effective in reducing anxiety, depression, relationship conflicts, and stress among LGBTQIA+ individuals.

One of the central elements of affirmative therapy is the therapist’s commitment to be educated, compassionate, affirming, supportive, and validating at every stage of the process. At their core, the therapist acknowledges the client’s sexual orientation and gender identity as a normal part of who they are and respects their right to self-determination. Beyond this, the therapist understands that it is not a client’s job to educate them about the LGBTQIA+ experience. Typically, therapists who provide LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy are either members of the community themselves or active advocates and allies who have done the work to appropriately and adequately provide this type of therapy. 


For clients who identify as LGBTQIA+, it’s important to have the confidence that therapy will truly be a safe, supportive, and affirming place. That’s why it’s important to seek out an affirmative or specialized therapist, rather than someone who simply says that they’re accepting of LGBTQIA+ individuals. In a world that remains largely heteronormative and cisnormative, it isn’t enough for a therapist to be tolerant of LGBTQIA+ people. Rather, to hold a genuinely safe and helpful space, they should have the qualifications, clinical experience, and understanding of what it means—at the individual, relational, and societal levels—to hold an LGBTQIA+ identity.

Taking Care of Your Mental Health As An LGBTQIA+ Identified Person

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People who identify as LGBTQIA+ are at higher risk of experiencing several mental health challenges—not because of who they are as people, but because of the stigmatization of queer identities that still exists in our culture. This can make it hard to live a fully expressed and fulfilled life as an LGBTQIA+ individual while also making it difficult to seek help without fear of judgment. But it’s important to know that queerness is not a mental illness, and seeking help is not a sign of weakness.

If you identify as LGBTQIA+, here are some ways you can take care of your mental health:


1. Prioritize your mental and emotional wellness. Being aware of your mental health challenges and the ways you can address them is a helpful first step in gaining the confidence to seek support. But beyond this, understanding that your mental health matters is fundamental. Start an exploration into how to optimize your mental and emotional wellness by reading books, following reputable mental health influencers, listening to podcasts, and learning about tools and practices you can incorporate into your daily life.

 

  1. Practice self-care. Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential to your overall wellness. Eating well, exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, and practicing good hygiene can all help reduce stress and improve your mood. You can also practice mindfulness, meditation, movement, and other relaxation techniques to help you become the calmest, most centered, most clear-minded version of yourself. 

 

  1. Surround yourself with support. For LGBTQIA+ identified people, community is everything. It’s important to find people who will see you, support you, celebrate you, and make you feel safe. This could be friends, family, members of local community groups, or an LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapist. Online groups and communities can also offer a supportive space to connect with others whose experiences are similar to yours.

    4. Know your rights. The LGBTQIA+ community has made great strides in recent years, but in many parts of the country, discrimination and bigotry still exist. Know your rights and be aware of the resources available to you in case of discrimination or mistreatment.

    5. Seek mental health care when needed. If you feel like your mental health challenges are impacting your daily life, seek professional help. A licensed mental health professional who practices LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy can provide a safe and supportive environment where you can open up about what you’re experiencing, address your concerns, and develop tools and skills to help you navigate your world in an authentic and empowered way.


Taking care of your mental health as an LGBTQIA+ individual can be challenging, but it’s essential to your overall wellbeing. By finding support, educating yourself, practicing self-care, knowing your rights, and seeking help when needed, you can overcome the struggles you’re facing and live a fulfilling, connected, and fully expressed life.

Common Challenges for LGBTQIA+ Couples, and How Therapy Can Help

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Although LGBTQIA+ people face relationship issues just like those faced by all couples, they also encounter some unique challenges that are unique to their experience. From differences in personal identities and experiences to issues like the impact of discrimination and societal stigma on the relationship, the particular challenges of LGBTQIA+ couples are important to identify. Fortunately, LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy is an accessible way for couples to address and overcome these challenges in order to build stronger, more connected and mutually satisfying relationships. Here are just a few of the most common relationship issues that LGBTQIA+ couples may face, as well as how therapy can help address them:

1. Difficulty navigating identity. Many LGBTQIA+ individuals struggle with navigating their own identities and understanding their place in society. This can lead to questions or confusion around issues of sexual orientation or gender identity, which can cause tension and confusion in the relationship. An affirmative therapist can provide a safe and supportive space for individuals and couples to explore their identities and work through any feelings of confusion or doubt that may be impacting their relationship.

2. Overcoming discrimination and stigma. Sadly, stigma against the LGBTQIA+ community is still prevalent in many parts of the world. This can put a strain on relationships, especially if one or both partners have experienced discrimination or harassment firsthand. In therapy, couples can process their experiences and develop coping strategies to manage the impacts of discrimination and marginalization on their relationships.

3. Communication difficulties. As with any relationship, communication is a key component of a healthy and thriving partnership. However, communication can be challenging for LGBTQIA+ couples, due to differences in their backgrounds and past experiences. Therapy can be a healthy and productive space to learn tools and strategies that facilitate effective communication, including mindful listening and conflict resolution techniques.

4. Struggles with internalized homophobia. Some LGBTQIA+ individuals may experience internalized homophobia or shame surrounding their sexual orientation or gender identity. This can manifest in a variety of ways, from feelings of self-doubt and low self-worth to difficulty expressing emotions or engaging in intimacy. Therapy can help couples confront and work through these difficult feelings, promoting greater self-acceptance for both partners and deeper emotional openness within the relationship.

5. Managing the stress of coming out. Coming out, or sharing one’s sexual orientation or gender identity with others, can be a significant source of stress for LGBTQIA+ individuals. Many couples face challenges when one person is out and the other isn’t, or when each individual in the relationship has a different way of moving through the world as a queer individual. An affirmative therapist can provide support and guidance to navigate the challenges that come with this unique aspect of LBTQIA+ couples’ relationships. 


While there are some challenges that come with being an LGBTQIA+ couple, therapy offers an invaluable opportunity to overcome these challenges and build stronger, healthier relationships. Whether you’re struggling with identity, discrimination, communication, internalized homophobia, or the stresses of coming out, an affirmative therapist can provide a safe and supportive space to explore your feelings and develop strategies for greater intimacy and fulfillment.

 

What Is Psychedelic Preparation and Integration?

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Psychedelic preparation and integration are two aspects of what is commonly referred to as psychedelic assisted therapy. This form of therapy is designed to support individuals who are intentionally engaging in self-work using psychedelics such as psilocybin, ketamine, LSD, and ayahuasca. These medicines can be vital tools for helping individuals explore their consciousness and gain a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them. Preparation and integration are a vital part of the therapy process designed to enhance the benefits of psychedelic experiences and reduce potential risks.

Psychedelic preparation involves a series of sessions with a trained therapist to help individuals prepare for their psychedelic experience. The preparation process begins with a thorough assessment, to determine whether an individual is an appropriate candidate for psychedelic therapy. It includes education about the effects and potential risks of the specific psychedelic substance being used, an exploration of the individual’s intentions and goals for the experience, and the development of coping strategies to deal with any difficult emotions or thoughts that may arise during the experience.

Psychedelic integration happens after an individual has had an experience with the psychedelic medicine. In these sessions, the therapist and client work together to discuss the insights gained during the psychedelic experience and integrate them into daily life. This part of the process is aimed at creating a sense of meaning and purpose from the psychedelic experiences, helping the client make positive changes in their lives and maintain the benefits of their psychedelic experiences in the long-term.

Psychedelic preparation and integration aren’t for everyone; but for individuals who are looking to explore their consciousness, gain a deeper understanding of themselves and others, and improve their mental health and wellbeing, they can be a powerful and effective tool. This type of therapy may be useful for people suffering from depression, anxiety, PTSD, addiction, and other mental health conditions.

Psychedelic assisted therapy has gained increasing attention in recent years, as studies have shown it to be a promising treatment for mental health conditions. However, it is important to note that psychedelic substances are still illegal in many parts of the world, and their use should only be conducted in safe and supervised settings. 

5 Ways to Become a More Disciplined Person

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5 Ways to Become a More Disciplined Person

 

At this time of year, more than any other, many of us are eager to implement positive changes in our lives. But the truth is, if we don’t have the discipline to work on making those chances, we won’t reach our goals or get the outcomes we desire. Discipline is an essential ingredient in the process of creating change. But it’s something a lot of us are lacking.

 

Discipline is a multi-dimensional skill. It consists of elements such as focus, commitment, structure, consistency, and the willingness to tolerate discomfort. Practicing discipline means choosing to make the effort, even when you don’t feel like it. It means committing yourself to something when you’re tempted to avoid it. It means keeping changed behaviors in place, even after you’ve reached your original goal. Motivation helps you set new goals; commitment helps you start working on them; but only discipline can help you keep the changes and place and turn the goals you achieve into new ways of being.

 

If discipline isn’t your strong suit, don’t stress! There are many ways you can start to develop it, no matter how old you are or how undisciplined you might be. Here are 5 simple ways you can get started:

 

  • Identify the areas where you struggle most. For some people it’s following through on a task or commitment; for others it’s finishing what they’ve started. Some people have the hardest time with implementing new behaviors on a consistent basis. Others struggle most with making excuses and talking themselves out of their efforts to change. Take an honest look at your own challenge areas, so you can see where the work is most needed.

 

  • Set yourself up for success. Sometimes, the things that get in the way of being disciplined are things people tend not to consider, like getting enough sleep and maintaining proper nutrition. Paying attention to these lifestyle basics will help you access the energy and mental focus you’ll need to stay disciplined.

 

  • Notice the thoughts and emotions that drain you of discipline. It’s one thing to work towards a goal when you’re motivated; it’s another to keep at it, even when you don’t feel like it. This is what discipline is all about. Your thoughts and feelings, which are constantly changing, can easily keep you from making good on the promises you make to yourself. To keep this from happening, pay attention to the emotions and feeling states that tend to derail you, and be mindful of the kinds of thoughts that keep you from sticking to your commitments.

 

  • Write things down and set reminders. Distraction is a big barrier to discipline. To keep it from taking you off course, organize yourself by writing down your goals/intentions/tasks and keeping them somewhere you’ll be sure to look at on a regular basis. Get a calendar or planner, if you don’t already have one, where you can write things down and keep yourself organized. Set reminders in your phone or use organizational apps and digital tools to keep yourself on track.

 

  • Practice delayed gratification. Our world is wiring us all for instant gratification, and it’s never been easier to take shortcuts and stay on the comfortable path of least resistance. But discipline requires delayed gratification—the ability to sustain effort in the absence of reward. This can be incredibly difficult, especially if you didn’t develop the ability early on in life; but you can train yourself to get better at it. Start with small practices, like not turning on the TV until you’ve completed all the essential tasks on your to-do list; not opening TikTok until you’ve sent those important work emails; or waiting to enjoy your morning coffee until after you’ve finished a 30-minute workout. Eventually, you can build up to setting bigger goals that require discipline and delayed gratification to complete.

 

Looking Beyond Labels: Why Diagnoses Don’t Always Help

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Looking Beyond Labels: Why Diagnoses Don’t Always Help

 

If you’ve ever gone to see a therapist or psychiatrist, especially if it’s been covered by your insurance, you’ve likely received a mental health diagnosis. This type of diagnosis is derived from The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DSM. The manual, currently in its 5th edition, is intended to be a means by which mental health professionals can assess an individual’s functioning based on predetermined criteria that are decided upon by a council of medical and mental health professionals. At its best, the DSM offers professionals a way to understand their patients’ needs more clearly, in order to provide targeted and effective clinical care. But the truth is, this diagnostic system often doesn’t function at its best. 

 

Realistically speaking, every diagnosis in the DSM is a snapshot of normal human behavior at a certain degree of intensity and duration. Take Major Depressive Disorder, for example. To meet criteria, a person needs to exhibit at least 5 of 7 specific symptoms over the course of at least 2 weeks. These symptoms include insomnia, depressed mood, loss of interest or pleasure in most activities, poor concentration, and changes in appetite. The truth is, most of us have, at some point or another in our lives, exhibited these “symptoms.” Sure, we may not all go through several of those things at once, or for as long a period of time; but what’s described by that diagnosis is well within the spectrum of the typical human experience. 

 

What tends to happen far too often is that diagnoses become labels that serve as markers of identity. Professionals, if they aren’t mindful, think of their patients as disorders rather than people. They focus so much on symptoms and criteria that they fail to see the unique, dynamic, multidimensional human being in front of them. They fail to consider important and highly relevant factors such as context, culture, and environment; and, most unfortunately, they assume their patients’ experience and needs, rather than being curious about them. For people on the receiving end of these diagnoses, getting labeled as “depressed,” “anxious,” “bipolar,” “ADHD” or “borderline” can feel stigmatizing and damning. It’s not to say that people aren’t helped by getting a clear diagnosis; it can certainly be relieving to put a label on what you’ve been experiencing. But when that label starts to dictate how you see yourself and what you believe to be possible for your life, it’s a problem. 

 

At Evergreen, we take a non-pathologizing approach to therapy. This means that, though we’re knowledgeable about the DSM and have a firm understanding of diagnostic criteria, this isn’t what we lead with in our work with clients. We believe that each person who comes to therapy is a unique individual having a distinctive experience in a specific context. We don’t listen to find out what’s wrong with our clients; we join with them in a state of sincere curiosity about what’s been happening in their lives and what they desire for the future. We listen to identify their strengths and resources, and we collaborate to discover solutions. The way we see it, every diagnosis—just like every part of the human experience—can be broken down into separate pieces. So, instead of working on your depression, we’ll focus on your guilt and explore it in ways that offer clarity and relief. Instead of working on your anxiety disorder, we’ll look at the mental, emotional, and physical dimensions of the anxiety you’ve been experiencing. With that understanding, we’ll collaborate with you to design solutions that will help you feel more grounded and less overwhelmed. Our aim, with each client we meet, is to honor their unique experience and look beyond labels to create new possibilities.

Dealing with the Dark Side of Family Time

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Dealing With the Dark Side of Family Time 

 

The late spiritual teacher Ram Dass once offered the sage advice, “If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family.” I often find myself echoing some version of these words in my conversations with clients who, feeling like they’ve made considerable progress in their personal development, find themselves frustrated after spending time with family. They tell me that things they thought they had resolved suddenly resurfaced in the presence of family members. Without warning, the grounded and responsive version of themselves they worked so hard to become was quickly replaced with an emotionally reactive and easily triggered version they thought they’d left behind. The first thing I do when clients share with me the disappointing encounters they’ve had around their families is to remind them that this is totally normal. Just as Ram Dass’s words suggest, no matter how far any of us believes we’ve gotten along the path of personal growth or spiritual enlightenment, time with family is bound to put our tools, our skills, and our insights to the ultimate test. This might seem counterintuitive. Why is it easier to be your best and highest self around strangers and acquaintances than it is around the people you’ve known all your life? It’s natural to find this confusing; but perhaps it shouldn’t come as such a surprise. After all, your family of origin—or, in other words, the family you were born into—is the environment in which you were shaped and molded. It’s where you first developed a sense of yourself and a way of seeing the world. The family environment is an emotionally charged environment that has its own energetic force field. When you return to that environment after becoming your own individual self, you reenter that force field. The effects of this differ from person to person, but they can include:  

 

  • Irritability or agitation 
  • A feeling of being easily triggered or set off 
  • Physical symptoms of anxiety (e.g., rapid heartrate, clamminess, dizziness)
  • Fatigue
  • Regression to a less mature, more childlike version of yourself 
  • Difficulty speaking up or stating an opinion
  • Heightened sensitivity or sense of insecurity 
  • An unconscious resuming of old roles once played in the family 
  • Brain fog and difficulty concentrating 

 

If you suffered childhood trauma or were subject to abuse in your family home, returning to the family environment can be especially destabilizing. When that’s the case, it’s important to develop a self-care plan and clear set of boundaries to help you keep the experience as emotionally safe as possible. Working with a therapist or survivor support group is a great way to develop these tools so that, if you do find yourself around family for planned or unexpected reasons, you can take care of yourself through the process. Regardless of your history or the nature of your relationships with family members, you’re likely to feel some effects from returning to a family environment as an independent adult. You might feel certain emotions come up, or notice a less preferred side of you coming out. When this happens, avoid the temptation to beat yourself up, and try to observe what’s happening with tender curiosity. Allow yourself to be a little less enlightened than you thought you were, and aim to approach the experience with mindful awareness. Practice breathing a little deeper, talking to yourself a little more kindly, and seeing your family landscape through a different lens. Use the tools you’ve been reading in books and talking about in therapy. Though you might come away from the encounter realizing there’s more work for you to do on yourself (not such a bad thing, in my eyes!), you might also find yourself with new understandings of yourself and your family that can help you grow, heal, and expand.  

Why We Should Stop Running from Pain

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It’s a natural human tendency to seek pleasure and avoid pain. And much of our lives is shaped around this instinct. We’re innately inclined to turn away from what hurts, and to seek safety in what’s pleasurable and familiar. But moving through life along the path of least resistance comes with a certain set of consequences.

The reality is, pain is fundamentally inescapable. It’s an undeniable fact of life that we will, at some point or another, experience some form of pain. That’s a fairly obvious thing. We’ve all experienced pain in our lives. But knowing that it’s true doesn’t make it any easier to accept.

Pain can be catalyzing. It can force us to grow and get stronger. Without it, we don’t learn what we’re capable of enduring and overcoming. But even if we understand that pain is inescapable, and even if we know it can be good for us, we’re still conditioned to avoid it at all costs. And we’re socialized to believe that if we’re careful enough . . . if we buy enough . . . if we work hard enough . . . if we’re thin enough . . . if we get rich enough . . . if we stay busy enough . . . we can live a pain-free existence.

This indoctrination gets us highly skilled at designing masterful maneuvers to dodge what we don’t want to feel (or don’t want others to feel):

  • We reach for a drink any time we feel stressed
  • We leave a relationship every time things get tough
  • We people-please until we’re spread paper thin
  • We procrastinate on important tasks and projects
  • We hover over our kids to try and spare them negative feelings
  • We talk ourselves out of our dream or ambitions

At first, these methods can be pretty effective, since they keep us in a relative comfort zone. For a while, we can get tricked into believing we’ve outsmarted what we don’t want to feel. But over time, we start to feel a different kind of discomfort. The kind that comes with consequences . . . often painful consequences.

We aren’t wrong for wanting to avoid feeling pain. It’s a perfectly human, perfectly natural thing to do. It just turns out to be ineffective. Our efforts to escape just take us right where we were trying not to go. Heraclitus, a philosopher from the late 6th Century BCE, taught that everything, pushed to its extreme, becomes its opposite. He was right. We can try to run from pain, but we can’t hide from it. Eventually, some form of it finds us.

Eventually, whatever we’re trying to escape will just pop up somewhere else, in some other form. We might find ourselves sliding down a slippery slope into the agony of addiction. We might develop patterns of relationship avoidance that get more and more alienating over time. We might miss out on our lives and wind up deeply unhappy with the way things turned out.

It’s normal to want to numb bad feelings; it’s understandable to want to run away from what hurts. But sooner or later, running away won’t work anymore. It’s going to catch up; and it may hurt even worse than when it started. If we want to survive—and, no doubt, if we want to thrive—we have to develop a tolerance for pain. We have to train ourselves to stay present to what we’re feeling and breathe through it until we come out on the other side.
All pain is temporary. All bad feelings pass.
And when we learn to lean in and let ourselves feel, we can turn these transitory feelings into sources of strength.

20 Ways to Stay Steady in These Shaky Times

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Over the last few months, I’ve heard a lot of similar statements from the clients I’ve seen . . .

“I’ve felt all over the place lately.”
“I’m overwhelmed.”
“I feel shut down.”
“I’m exhausted all the time.”
“All I want to do is crawl in bed and stay there until this is all over.”
“I can’t believe the world I’m living in.”
“I’ve been so reactive with the people I love.”
“It’s hard for me to think about the future.”

Did any of what you just read echo your own thoughts lately? If I had to guess, I’d say that at least some of it resonated on some level. I know it resonates for me. For the last several months, I’ve felt shifts in my energy, my mood, my attention span, and my tolerance. I’ve felt changes in my body and noticed alterations in my perception of things. For a lot of us, the collective experiences we’ve been going through have completely disrupted the predictability we tend to count on in our lives. It’s torn a hole through the fabric of our lives—one that we’re finding can’t be sewn back the way it once was. What we’re living through right now resembles little of what we’ve lived through before. We’re in unfamiliar territory. We’re standing on shaky ground. And the shockwaves of these disruptions are moving through us in many ways.

Under these unusual circumstances, it makes sense for us to feel pretty unusual ourselves. Our minds, our bodies, our emotional systems, and our relationships are all responding to the changes and attempting to adapt accordingly. This process of adaptation isn’t always smooth or straightforward—and it can take a heavy toll on us if we aren’t mindful about responding to it. That’s why it’s more important than ever that we work on attuning to our needs so we can care for ourselves as much as possible. Here are a few ways to do that:

  • Keep a journal and regularly write what you’re feeling, what you’re experiencing, and what you need
  • Set limits on your consumption of news and social media
  • Spend time outdoors, and connect with nature as much as possible
  • Be willing to disengage from conversations about what’s happening that cause you to feel anxious
  • Try your level best to get 7-9 hours of restful sleep each night
  • Move your body as much as you can (spontaneous dance parties are highly recommended)
  • Keep essential oils on hand (lavender, cedarwood, and frankincense are particularly helpful for soothing and grounding). Rub a couple of drops into your palms, and breathe it in
  • Start a meditation and/or breathwork practice
  • Engage in self-massage, or ask your partner to massage you (then, of course, return the favor)
  • Take intentional breaks from your phone and computer
  • Keep lots of nutritive whole foods in your diet, and consider pre- and probiotics to keep your gut happy and healthy
  • Make a teletherapy session to process what you’re experiencing and help you stay balanced
  • Keep yourself hydrated
  • Practice grounding exercises (such as tuning in to your 5 senses, 1 at a time)
  • Connect with your community and contribute to others in whatever ways you can
  • Commit to spending time on the things that make you feel most relaxed and joyful
  • Stay aware of your mind’s attempts to predict what the future will look like (because the anxious brain tends to fill in the blanks with worst-case-scenario material)
  • Lean on your faith traditions or spiritual practices to support you in trusting life
  • Be gentle with the way you speak to yourself
  • Be willing to loosen or let go of the standards you held yourself to 6 months ago

This list is by no means complete; there are countless ways to nurture yourself as you navigate these challenging times. But however you choose to respond to what’s happening, I hope that you’ll do it with a sense of self-acceptance, self-awareness, and self-compassion. This, too, shall pass; and until it does, we’ll be best served by being good to ourselves and others.